Question: I always feel better after being in sadness for sometime, could you please tell me what is wrong with me?

Have you heard of “ying” and “yang” in Chinese culture? If you notice the symbol in Taoism? It is known as active and passive energy, man and woman, sun and moon and etc.

If you look at the symbol, the white and the black area are totally opposite of each other and in the white area there is a circle of black while in the black area there is a bit of the white. What is this?

Actually, these two polarities had covered the whole life journey that we can talk about. Coming back to the topic of why you always feel better or even happy in sadness? There is because in the black there is always a white circle to balance your emotion.

Let your emotion flow and watch it. When you are feeling sad, watch without judging, watch the emotion arise in you, sadness is not wrong. There is no happiness if sadness is not there. They are just complimenting each other. Detach yourself and watch the emotion.

Sadness is not wrong, happiness is not right either. The only right thing to do is not to deny the emotion inside you.

Nowadays, there are a lot of faces, when you are feeling down you have to pretend that you are alright, when you don’t feel like smiling you have to smile, all these have shielded your own true self from you. In fact, the whole world has become crazy. It is not wrong to shield your un-happiness or sadness when you are face with the whole stress of work and society. Tough and hard faces are needed when you are giving a speech or fighting a war.

But when it comes to you and yourself, you should not deny the emotions you have in you. Be aware of your own self and most importantly do not betray or denied your own emotion.

© by Xunler at http://lifejourneyanswer.com

—The author XunLer is a disciple from a great master is practicing meditation since 1999. Self-searching is the real route of all life journey. You can find more of his work in http://lifejourneyanswer.com –