The action of blaming is by another party (someone at work) and you are only re-acting to the situation. In the society that we are living today, people are re-acting to one another and emotions have become a chain.

I have heard: when a person angry at work, he scolds his subordinate. When his subordinate goes home, he scolds his wife, then his wife scolds their kid. Since the kid does not have anybody to vent his or her frustration, he vent his anger on a stray dog, that is how the chain reaction goes, always base on the action by somebody else.

When you say that you are trying to meditate in order to gain peace then it is a VERY wrong approach. You cannot force yourself to sit quietly when you are losing your peace. When you are angry your heart rate is increase and you are on high alertness, so it is very wrong to suppress the anger inside you. When you are angry or even not gaining peace then let IT be. There is nothing wrong with the feeling. In other words, you are giving ‘negative’ sign to your feelings.

Instead of trying to meditate when you are angry, let the awareness arises in you. It is pretty hard to begin awareness when you lost your cool. This is the reason why many masters have told disciples to have awareness and understanding at all times.

With awareness of emotions and through life understanding, you will gain the peace that you are searching. Meditation techniques are used for relaxation at your free time but it is not a tool to clam your nerves or to reverse your emotion or your feelings when you are feeling unrest.

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**As a disciple from great masters, XunLer is a meditator since 1999. You can find more of the author works in http://lifejourneyanswer.com**